It’s hard to say why exactly, perhaps the holidays are making them feel resentful that loads of women are sexually unavailable to them, but the whining, the raging, and the general loutish behavior coming from the MRA camp are audible from the other side of Mount Entitlement this week.
Backing up: for those unfamiliar with the term, MRA’s are “Men’s Rights Activists.” A sane person can look at the shifts in gender dynamics and put together that along with the expansion of what women are able to do and be, there are some things that are no longer fair to expect of men and that some things need to change. For example, this page has previously mentioned its support for changes in divorce and family leave law to make it more accommodating to men’s changing roles in the family.
However, MRA pages are mainly dens seething with misogyny (or at least with anger at suffering under the iron fist of misandry), blaming women for all the ills of the world and claiming that men are truly the oppressed gender. Go ahead, finish banging your head on the desk, I’ll wait.
Amanda Marcotte talks about this in a recent blog post for RH Reality Check. The MRA community is outraged –outraged!- at the arrest of Kevin Bollaert, who is facing 31 counts of conspiracy, identity theft, and extortion for running a “revenge porn” site. It is stifling their free speech, apparently, to not be able to post nude photos of women who broke up with them, along with exes’ personal contact information so that they can be stalked and humiliated.
Goodness, where are my tiny violins? I need to play the world’s saddest song for these oppressed men who are being told they can’t harass and intimidate women who no longer want to have sex with them.
Meanwhile, back at Occidental College, there’s apparently a rape epidemic, with hundreds of reports flooding into the university’s anonymous sexual assault reporting system. Oh, wait, don’t worry, it’s actually just a douchebag epidemic. Hundreds of MRA’s with nothing better to do decided to go and fill out hundreds upon hundreds of obscene (and obscenely false) reports on the college’s anonymous sexual assault online reporting form, in order to scuttle the system. Why? Because every woman who claims she’s raped is lying, and destroying resources for survivors is hilarious.
Oh wait, I’m sorry, I mean, because it’s their duty as men to protect the men of Occidental from false accusations of rape, in spite of the fact that the form is not designed to function that way. How do you even investigate an anonymous rape report?
Really, people. Even the Community of the Wrongly Accused thought this form was no big deal and that there was no particular reason to try and destroy it. It’s mainly a tool for the university to figure out how widespread the sexual assault problem is on campus so they can properly allocate resources. Their blog post about it is a more intellectual, long-form “whatevs.”
Ironically, a favorite tactic that MRA’s often use to try to get feminists to shut up about rape and sexual assault is to cry, “MEN ARE SEXUALLY ASSAULTED BY WOMEN IN EQUAL NUMBERS TO WOMEN ASSAULTED BY MEN!!!” So, apparently, they don’t want male assault victims to get help either.
Watch out y’all. The MRA’s have broken into the Schnapps and are marching on your town to claim it for the ManFederacy!
By the time I read the article about Fathers4Justice taking out an ad attempting to publicly shame Kate Winslet because she’s a single mother (“KIDS NEED A FATHER AT CHRISTMAS, KATE.”), I was ready to either smash something or try to raise money to have every last one of these guys checked for brain tumors. They appear completely undeterred by the whole “not knowing her personally or having Clue One about how she conducts her family life” thing when it comes to telling her how to do it. Because kids need fathers. And women need to be told what to do. By men. Even when the men have no information on which to base their valuable opinions.
Which goes back to a point I’ve made before: Most of these MRA’s are not, generally speaking, really that interested in the issues they claim to care about. They’re just using these thing as cudgels to beat you, the feminist, over the head till you shut up.
Go visit a site for male rape survivors, or an “intactivist” (anti-circumcision) blog, or anyplace where there are people actually working on these causes. You won’t find much misogyny. In fact, you’ll probably find a lot of women.
So, ho ho ho, MRA’s. You can complain and play “pranks” and take out all the nasty ads you want, but women are still going to be living wonderful, fulfilled lives that don’t include you. So here’s a stocking full of man-pain. Don’t scarf it all at once or you’ll get a tummy ache.